Newly Weds

So it's been about a month and a half since me and Tony have been married! Yay! And tomorrow is his birthday! Double yay! Okay so I am so use to hearing people say " the first six months will be filled with lots of love and lots of arguments,but that's okay! It's normal" like what?? That's not what anyone looks forward to in the beginning of a marriage.. the love part,YES! The arguments..no! We are anything but normal to begin with,our relationship is not the same as anyones,we have different love languages and we're just all around different than society and different than the "norm" that you hear about now a days, and I think that's one thing that young couples get confused with. With all of these posts on social media and all of the information and trends we see on t.v. And read about our minds are just filled with such worldly expectations that are insane and not okay but are now called "normal". Let me just say if you are in a young relationship or in any relationship at all for that matter DO NOT LISTEN TO SOMEONE/SOMETHING THAT SAYS WHAT IS NORMAL AND WHATS NOT! No one has ever made rules about that! No one knows what's normal with anyone else besides them and their closest people and even that's a stretch. Be your own relationship! Make it yours,not the tumblr/facebook/twitter posts you see. That's what will make it so different and unique and the love will grow so so much more. And trust me I am so guilty in this in thinking "oh but I want that" and "that girl got flowers everyday!" Please.. that doesn't make a real relationship. Let your significant other do what they want,let them pursue you in that way,they'll be doing it for the rest of their lives and you'll learn to love what they do for you because you know it's coming from them. In the beginning of my marriage I don't want those arguments and huge fights of "getting to know each other" I wanna get to know my husband better by talking to him and just living life with him. Yes,we argue sometimes. But we don't make it a normal. This past month and a half has been very busy with work for both of us ( mostly him) but every night we come home to each other,talk and live life together and it has been nothing but great! My whole point in this post really is that people and you might have expectations of how life goes after your married but don't,just live life and make the marriage you want. Trust in the Lord because he will be your ultimate strength on those bad days and never stop ceasing in prayer ❤️