Assumptions People Make About Getting Married Young

People are quick to assume the REASONING behind you getting married so young. The absolute first assumption you will get is that you'r pregnant. Especially when you don't have a big wedding that takes time to put together. At every family gathering you may have to stand on top of the table and let everyone know that's not the case. If it is your case then congratulations! Stand on that table and tell everyone and let them start loving on you!

I feel like there's just no way to get around that assumption so just be prepared! Also, don't do those Facebook threads that are a joke about being pregnant... your older relatives will not read the full thing and you will receive baby gifts! Haha! Another assumption of reason would be that you're trying to keep a family legacy if your parents got married young. My husbands parents got married young (19 & 20) and have had a big beautiful family and I mean BIG! He's the oldest out of 8! Since being one of the oldest of such a large family we've gotten a lot of assumptions of wanting to do the exact same thing. Start having kiddos soon and create an empire faster to keep it going. While that works for people, It hasn't been God's plan for us yet. I am so content with how it is right now, I would love to be more established for my children in my faith and work to provide them the world. If that's not something in your family then it could be anything. Your dad's in the army and you're going in too so you get married and it's always an assumption you want to be right there with them ( well duh) but you're rushing into it way too fast. Basically, you're trying to follow your parents steps. This list could go on but these are just the few we've gotten. None of them are true in case you're still wondering!

How people assume we ACT... It is literally nothing like you've ever read or heard about! We've lost friends because of assumptions. To me that is so crazy. We act the same as we did when we were dating but our love and care for each other grows so much more everyday and we have grown even more as best friends which all together helps us be even better friends to our friends! But no, the ones who have slowly gone away assume we'll just be taken over by the other person. They think they'll feel awkward around us or that they'll be uncomfortable because oh how "clingy" we'll be. It is crazy how fast friends will go because of that and they can't be genuinely happy for us. Our suggestion is that you find your group of good friends. We have had a handful stick by our side and they mean the world to us and we can finally see our true friendships and cherish them even more. Ya'll when it comes to friends and hanging around them we just want to be best friends with them to! It is so fun and SO important to have other friends you can share your other interests with. They add even more fun adventures and good laughs and are our family now. This may sound crazy but I do get being awkward around couples... even now! There are some couples sometimes that will be all over each other and I mean ALL over each other at friend gatherings and it's cringy but you push past it and hangout with everyone else. All that to say, most couples aren't like that and what we need now more then anything is our friends! We are still young, we still like to do fun things and go out! We are not 60! Only on night when we work literally all day because now we have those days too, but for the most part we're still in our 20's! Haha!

Peoples assumptions on why we SHOULDN'T get married in the first place.. not because of us but because of society. This one is honestly hard to defend because there are facts. For every 1,000 married women 16.9 will get a divorce. There is research that half of marriages will end in divorce. There is also statistics saying that millennials are choosing to get married later to have a longer marriage and that is bringing down the marriage rate and the divorce rate.( https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/ ) . I think this is where the nitty gritty comes in. Before getting married at a young age we need to step back and see the foundation we have in our faith and in each other. No one ever plans to get a divorce but people don't plan to get married so young either, it happens fast more then it doesn't and that's what happened to me. It happened quick but if you have a good foundation it Will work. With your faith and drive for each other you don't have to fall into the statistics. You can tell your Aunt Margo that just because her marriages don't workout doesn't mean yours won't. Facts are what they are but they also don't define you as people and as a marriage. Take these assumptions and shake them off. They don't define you and every other couple in the world.

Marriage isn't easy, getting married young REALLY isn't easy. But it is so beautiful. We've honestly been so blessed with support and love. That doesn't mean we don't get remarks or that we don't have people still asking us when our huge family is coming. But we are so strong in our faith and each other and the plans God has for our future that we can shake it off easy. I hope that the people who are reading this and have assumed before have a softened heart before making remarks next time. As a young couple what is really needed is encouragement, advice when asked for it and just love and support! To anyone thinking of getting married I want you to know it's okay but please be firm in faith and foundation. Love unconditionally and realize we all need grace ( yes, even your soon to be husband that can play a video game for 4 hrs straight. We've all been there girl!). I hope this was encouraging to all of you and if you ever have any questions feel free to email me at leilalucietta@gmail.com . I am always here to chat! Have an amazing week ya'll